March 24, 2020

Well, here we are. 

Living in a world we never imagined or desired. As much as we may try to ignore it, it’s reality, and it’s global. 

A lot of adjustments have been made over the past couple of weeks. Changes we never dreamed of having to make and challenges we never anticipated facing. 

I don’t know about you, but challenges and changes can invoke a number of emotions for me. Primarily fear. For you type A conquer or be conquered folks out there (enneagram type 8 anyone?), this is probably what you’ve been waiting for. But regardless of how we are wired or trained to approach challenges, everyone of us is prone to fear on some level. We all hold within us the nature of humanity that values something and fears losing it. 

These “somethings” can be physical, relational, or internal. Things like jobs, homes, family, money, our image, knowledge, stability, security, peace, rest, comfort or even life itself.  

These times are uncertain, unprecedented, and uncharted. With that comes a number o...

August 14, 2019

To be unraveled is a good thing. We hold ourselves so tightly. Our thoughts. Our emotions. The stresses of our days. The agendas, schedules, deadlines, meetings, programs; let’s just say the distractions of life, wind us up into knotted messes of anxiety, depression, worry, doubt, anger, indifference…you get the picture. 

I was there. I didn’t know how much, but I was there. 

Someone asked me the other day how sabbatical was. Was there any big takeaway from my time away? My honest answer was, I don’t know. I can’t fully pinpoint one big thing. One epiphany. One revelation. I don’t recall having a 2 Corinthians 12:2 experience. 

However, I do know this, God was near. He began unraveling me. The knot within my soul, the stress and pressure in my chest has softened. Almost vanished I might say. 

My six weeks off were filled with a lot of resting. Sitting. Listening. Thinking. Not thinking. Reading. Playing. Praying. Writing. Eating. I enjoyed time with my family, time with my friends, time wi...

April 12, 2019

This may sound a little funny, but the other day I was thinking about the game "Marco Polo!" and how it related to pastors. I am a pastor. I work with pastors. I'm growing in my understanding of the challenges that pastors face. I've worked with church leaders who were burnt out, fired, caught in sin, and on the verge of divorce. I've also worked with far more who just needed encouragement and support.

In them all, I have seen the humanness of the pastor.

In our culture today it's easy to dehumanize pastors and ministry leaders by placing them on pedestals and idolizing them as if their life is the life that should be aspired to because they seem to have it all put together.

This is often a two way street. What I mean is, it's not solely the congregation at fault for exalting the

pastor. Unfortunately our culture’s idolization of pastors is frequently inspired by and fueled by the pastors themselves. Sometimes intentionally and sometimes not. There is a lie that sneaks into th...

January 16, 2019

“For this I toil, struggling with all his energy that he powerful works within me.”

Colossians 1:29 

To live is to struggle. 

I have yet to encounter a season of life that didn’t contain some sort of struggle. Whether it be financial, relational, emotional, spiritual, or mental there has been struggle. 

There isn’t a human who has ever walked the earth who has not struggled. Jesus, the perfect human, God in the flesh, struggled. 

However, I find myself avoiding struggle. I’m prone to dodge it like my children dodge my request for them to go brush their teeth. In my attempts to dodge struggle, I specifically find myself avoiding the things I know will cause it. Things that may be hard. Things that cause me to press beyond my own abilities and wit. Things that may lead to conflict. 

I avoid. 

I am prone to avoid conversations, conflict, and relationships that may lead to difficult situations and conversations. I avoid discomfort. 

I avoid God.

I am prone to avoid His commands, His gentle nudges o...

November 11, 2017

“Let me learn by paradox

that the way down is the way up,

that to be low is to be high,

that the broken heart is the healed heart, 

that the contrite spirit is the rejoicing spirit, 

that the repenting soul is the victorious soul, 

that to have nothing is to possess all,

that to bear the cross is to wear the crown, that to give is to receive,

that the valley is the place of vision.”

- Valley of Vision

Heaviness. Unsettled. Confused. Frustrated. These are words that have been swirling around my mind the past couple of months. I know I’m not alone. In light of all that has transpired since August 27th, there seems to be a lowness to life for many people. A depression, so to speak. 

A valley. 

We shy away from valleys, don’t we? Valleys are confining. They keep you from seeing what lies ahead. They can cause you to feel trapped or stuck. It’s on top of the mountain that you feel free. Open. Light. As if you could fly. It’s from the top that you can see clearly in all directions with no obstructions t...

April 3, 2017

We are two weeks away from Easter Sunday. For many, it will be the one time of year they wake up, put on their pastels, and make it to some church worship gathering. For others, it will be the end of Lent—a season leading up to the joyous celebration of Christ’s resurrection, marked by expectant prayer, fasting, and preparation. 

Some observe Lent merely as tradition. For others there is a genuine pursuit of God, a seeking of holiness, and a desire to live differently than the cultural currents that so easily can sweep us deeper into the pleasures of this world. 

I have been pondering this description of Lent:

“It is a period to empty ourselves of lesser things so that we might be filled with the greater things of the gospel.” 

I love this statement because it puts the discipline of fasting in perspective. It helps me lean into fasting with joy and it shows what it is all about. 

But the more I think about this statement, the more I desire it for all of my life, not just this season. Not j...

June 3, 2016

"...Jesus came and stood among them and said to them,

'Peace be with you.'"


John 20:19



This past Saturday, the day between Good Friday and Resurrection Sunday, I kept thinking about the disciples and how they felt.  Waiting in silence. Not knowing. Unsure. Questioning. All hopes shattered, broken to pieces like glass falling to the floor.  


Was this all a lie? Did he deceive us? What do we do now? Where do we go from here? Are we next? Is denial our best option? Our only option? Do we admit we were wrong? Will they forgive us our treason? 






The bible doesn’t tell us much about what happened between the crucifixion and the resurrection. Each of the renderings in Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John describe that period in a few sentences. Then they all make the shift by using one word. 


“Now….” - Matthew 28:1

“When…” - Mark 16:1

“But…” - Luke 24:1

“Now…” - John 20:1


Though little is mentioned, we can only imagine the time between what...

June 3, 2016

Our work at BetterDays is at its best on the trail, outside, taking in God's wide-open spaces and being put in our place. Odyssey is our trips that promote this perspective. These two men joined us a few years back and are telling their stories here. Come for a walk with us... go outside!


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